Building Commitment in Marriage | Dr. Bill Doherty | #2
In this week’s episode, Dr. Bill Doherty, explains the importance boundaries and intimacy to avoiding the developing a consumer marriage. He shares tips how to avoid believing you are a marriage expert, detect harmful marital therapy, how to better navigate relationship difficulties as a novice, and ultimately build commitment in your marriage.
0:00 – Introduction: Who is Bill Doherty?
3:00 – Will 40-50% of marriages really end in divorce?
4:05 – What’s the danger in acting like a marriage expert?
9:54 – The value of commitment in 21stcenturymarriages.
14:58 – What’s the difference between helpful & harmful marriage therapy?
23:00 – How can I be married for life? Two powerful ingredients.
27:00 – The consumer marriage & Marital First Responders.
30:20 – What motivated Bill’s book “Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in a World that Pulls Us Apart”? 34:17 – How do marital rituals create and sustain happy marriages?
39:12 – Takeaways& the consumer marriage: What about deal breakers?
Insights: You are a citizen of your marriage not a consumer of your marriage. Intentionality and commitment within marriage will allow you to create the lifelong relationship you may desire. One way to develop intentionality and commitment in your marriage is through Couple Connection Rituals. (Check out the invites section for ideas you can apply today!)When someone is struggling in their marriage they often turn to family, friends, and clergy first. Head tomaritalfirstresponders.org to find out how to respond if someone comes to you in marital crisis!
Invites:
1) Couple Connection Ritual Ideas:
• Anniversary: Review wedding vows and share a special treat!
• Weekly: Set aside a specific time and location for sexual intimacy when there will be limited distractions.
• Daily: Set an alarm 20 minutes earlier than when you need to wake up for couple snuggles or shower together before bed.
2)Learn how to better support marriages around you by becoming a Marital First Responder. For more information visit: https://maritalfirstresponders.org
About:
Bill Doherty is a Professor in the Department of Family Social Science at the University of Minnesota. A long-time marriage and family therapist, he is an expert on navigating marital crisis, avoiding divorce, and using family rituals to enhance the quality of family life. He is the author of“ The Intentional Family” and “Take Back Your Marriage”. In recent years Bill has taken this couples work to the national level via cofounding Braver Angels, an initiative working to decrease the political polarization that is dividing the country. dohertyfoundation.org. Check out “Insights and Invites” on the Stronger Marriage Connection webpage for key episode takeaways and tips on how to improve your marriage connection today!
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